Whilst presenting Yahweh's message to the people of many countries Stewarton Bible School has in the past been repeatedly asked questions about celibacy, marriage, adultery, divorce, remarriage, polygamy, etc. The questions are often penned by believers from foreign lands and though individual queries vary from letter to letter, underlying all is the desire to know what the Bible has to say about these very important matters.
The aim of this article is, therefore, to present the Scriptural teaching on the question of whether or not a believer in Yahweh the Holy One of Israel is permitted to have more than one wife at the same time.
This article is addressed to believers in the God of Abraham, Isaac and Israel. It is aimed at believers all over the world, no matter in which country they find themselves. It is based on the Scriptural teaching concerning marriage and the texts and the examples given may be checked for accuracy. The article is divided into several sections, each dealing with the matter from a different angle. The sections are as follows:
1. Should an Unmarried Believer Stay Single?
A celibate is a person who remains single and refrains from sexual intercourse. Celibacy is not a divine law. To be sure the celibate state does release a believer - male or female - to work more effectively for God. But, do remember, that celibacy is not a divine law. According to Scripture, all believers (including the priesthood) should be allowed to marry if they wish.
|Genesis 2:18||"And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone. |
I will make him a help meet for him."
And so the Almighty provided a wife for Adam. We will not however
conclude that because marriage is "good" that the single state
is inferior. The single state has certain advantages. The Bible says:
|1 Corinthians 7:32-35||"He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the
Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for
the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There
is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman
careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body
and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the
world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your
own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which
is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction."
|1 Corinthians 7:7-9||"For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn."|
2. Is it a Sin for a Married Man to take a Second or Third Wife?
No one can read the Scriptures without realising that Yahweh's ideal is that each man should have only one wife. God's directive to kings, those most likely to have more than one wife, is:
|Deuteronomy 17:17||"Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away:"|
In the Scriptures, even though the ideal state is one man to one
woman, it was not condemned as sin for a man of Israel to have two
wives at the same time. Some famous men in Scripture had more than one
wife and, to my knowledge, they were not condemned as sinners.
Examples are: Jacob, Gideon, Elkanah (the father of the prophet
Samuel) King Rehoboam and King David. We do, however,
find instances where the Almighty strongly condemns divorce or
the putting away of a wife.
|Malachi 2:14-16||"Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away:"|
In some countries a man is still allowed by civil law to have more than one wife. In Britain and the USA this practice is against the civil law. If a man in the west wants to marry a second wife, he is obliged to divorce (put away) the first before he can take the second. This practice of divorcing one's wife is strongly condemned in the Scriptures. God hates it. But back to the question.
Question: Is it a sin for a believer to take a second wife?
Answer: Strictly speaking, polygamy is not classified as a
sin: but most certainly it is not meeting Yahweh's original plan of
one man to one wife. In other words, men with two or more wives are
NOT following the Almighty's plan and ideal of one wife to each man.
|Mark 10:4-9||"And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."|
If in those exceptional circumstances a second marriage is entered upon, the first wife should not be put away or divorced. The following conditions must also be met before the second union can be recognised as a proper marriage.
In view of the complications brought about by the marriage laws of countries where polygamy is not allowed, we are led to the following conclusions:
Incidentally, a believer with two wives or more is not allowed to hold
a position of elder, bishop, minister, pastor, deacon or youth leader in the
|1 Timothy 3:1-2||"This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop,
he desireth a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the
husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to
hospitality, apt to teach."
|Titus 1:5-9||"For this cause left I thee in Crete, that thou shouldest set in order the things that are wanting, and ordain elders in every city, as I had appointed thee: If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly. For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre; But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate; Holding fast the faithful word as he hath been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince the gainsayers."|
3. Should a Man with two Wives Divorce One when He Becomes a Believer?
As stated above, the advice given in this article is based on the Scriptures. It goes beyond the conflicting civil laws of many nations and deals with the subject of marriage from the vantage point of Holy Writ; taking for its examples Bible characters whose lives are commented on for all to examine.
To the question which heads this section Stewarton Bible School's answer is No. A man with two wives should not be required to put away or divorce one wife when he becomes a Christian. The reasons are as follows.
|Malachi 2:16||"For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away ..."|
4. Should a Married Believer Separate from an Unbelieving Partner?
Again the answer is no: not merely because God hates divorce or "putting away," but because of the amazing spiritual considerations referred to in this passage of Scripture.
|1 Corinthians 7:10-15||"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace."|
There are, of course, occasions where a total breakdown of the
marriage occurs; when life has become a living hell for the wife or
husband. In these cases a separation is permitted: but not a
separation in order to remarry another partner.
|1 Corinthians 7:15-16||"But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?"|
5. Should a Married Woman who is the Second Wife of an Unbelieving
Husband Leave Her Husband When She Becomes a Believer?
Once again our answer is, No she shouldn't. She may be the second or third wife of the unbelieving man - it matters not: if he wants to keep her as his wife, she should stay with him for the reasons given above. There is no Scripture that requires her to leave him for another. If, however, because of unbearable conditions imposed on her, she chooses to leave, she may do so: but she will thereafter need to stay single or be reconciled to her husband. She is not allowed to marry another man as long as her former husband is alive.
|Romans 7:1-2||"Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the
law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband
so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from
the law of her husband."
|1 Corinthians 7:10-11||"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife."|
|2 Corinthians 6:14-16||"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people."|
7. Should a Believer Agree to become the Wife of a Believer Who
Already has a Wife?
The answer is No. This question/answer is included here for the benefit of Christian girls in countries where polygamy is accepted by civil law. To become the second or third wife of any man, however good he may appear to be, is asking for trouble. As a second wife you may be the favourite for a few years: but sooner or later you will find yourself scrambling for attention.
8. Is a Woman Allowed to have more than one Husband?
The answer is No. According to divine law a woman is not allowed to have two husbands at the same time. In other words she must wait till her first husband is dead before marrying a second. Nor is there a single example in the Scriptures of a godly Israelite woman who had two husbands at the same time.
|Romans 7:13||"Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man."|